Blame Shifting From Perp to Victim

Malachi 2:13-14 ESV  And this second thing you do. You cover the LORD’s altar with tears, with weeping and groaning because he no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand.  (14)  But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.

Evil always works to take the focus from itself and place it on its victim or on others in general. Here in Malachi the Israelites had been consistently sinning in obvious ways and yet with their weeping and wailing they blame the Lord. “Why doesn’t He bless us? There’s the real problem. He isn’t being good to us like He promised.” No one talks about the real cause which is their own sin.

I have seen this over and over again, as no doubt many of you have. Some wickedness, sin, or crime is committed. It is discovered. It is known. And yet, over time (even a short period of time), through the blame-shifting efforts of the wicked, the focus moves to the victim. The victim did this or that. The victim did not respond in a right way. The victim needs to….. yada, yada, yada.

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A Powerful True Account of How False Teaching on Forgiveness is Dangerous

The following is a comment submitted to me at my other blog, unholycharade.com   I am posting it here, and there, as a stand-alone post because of its importance. Many, many thanks to the courageous lady who wrote and shared her story with us. We want to honor her desire that as many people as possible hear what she has to say so that they too can be wise:

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A Lady’s Wise Words about Spotting Evil

Pro 18:5 It is not good to be partial to the wicked or to deprive the righteous of justice.

I listened to a phone message today from a lady I don’t know – I don’t even know her name. She called our church office to thank us for the domestic abuse sermon series we have online at sermonaudio.com/crc   If she reads this, many thanks for her encouragement.

One of the things she said was very wise. Having grown up being abused by evil family members, she said that she finally came to see two Scriptures in particular clarity that the Lord used to set her free. One is quoted above, Proverbs 18:5. The other was from Matthew –

Mat 10:21-22 Brother will deliver brother over to death, and the father his child, and children will rise against parents and have them put to death, (22) and you will be hated by all for my name’s sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.

She realized in regard to the Matthew text that a Christian may well find themselves hated intensely even by their own brother, father, and children. It occurred to her that this means the abuse she experienced from family was not her fault.

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